"if I were to choose to be honest and hurt a person or dishonest and hurt a person, I would always choose to be honest."

(quote by ruqin, rephrased)

In life we learn from our mistakes, and some of them prick us more than others. We set for ourselves certain standards to attain and others also have their expectations of us. Most of us feel that the weight of these pressures are too much hence they either choose to 'kill' themselves by fulfilling every one of them, or they simply go the other way - walk away feeling disgruntled.

Of course, there are unrealistic expectations - but by whose definition?

Well, hurt is a by-product of disappointment, caused by breaking of a contract/trust/agreement/understanding. You will always have to answer this question when that happens: to tell or not to tell? What will you choose?

Remember, 'we learn from our mistakes'. This statement implies that we all make mistakes, and we all REPEAT them. So, after you've made a wrong decision, don't screw up your relationships furthur by giving yourself an excuse to make another wrong move.